We all have something to regret of and we all wish we could reverse the hand of time to change the past. But the truth is that we can’t and the only thing each of us can do is move on.
That is what this article is all about, this article will inspire you to rise again even if you are trapped and soaked in regrets, guilt and shame.
Why do we regret?
The memory of our mistakes most times can make us regret, but the issue is that while some people get trapped by their regrets others rise above it and move on with their lives.
GOD told said in His word that “although you may fall seven times you shall rise again Proverbs 24:16.
You may be down today with regrets probably because you have lived a life full of mistakes, I want you to know that you will rise again and all you need to do is make a decision and take steps.
You just have to tell yourself that you will make it, and then begin to take decisive and wise steps forward.
Sitting back with memories that are not helpful and empowering only means that you are taking steps backward. GOD above all else wants you to move forward, which is the path to fruitfulness and life success. His will is that you prosper even as your soul prospers 3 John1:2.
This is why GOD forgives you when you ask for forgiveness, He also so puts your sins behind and gives you a new life and a new beginning as He refreshes your soul.
Also read: Is There Still Forgiveness for Me From GOD?
No matter the mistake it’s not the end of your life, they are only a step to discovery of your potentials, strength and personality.
Here are 10 things to help you rise above your regrets, shame and guilt and move on in life;
1. Everything happens for a reason
Somethings are bound to happen and you can do not about it, no matter how much you try. I have seen people do all they can to save a loved one from death, jail or what have you but to no avail.
Quite blaming yourself because some things are beyond you
I once blamed myself for everything that goes wrong in my life and the people around me, I almost died with depression because I was trying to carry the burden that is not mine to carry.
I would say to myself, if I was there this or that wouldn’t have happened, if I had known better I wouldn’t have done this or that.
But the truth is that you are not GOD and you can’t stop bad things from happening, although we need to be careful but there are things we just can’t stop no matter how careful we are.
This is why I subscribe to prayers and ask people to pray all the time, it is important that you learn to commit everything into the hands of GOD.
Also read: 6 Reason why you need to make prayer a habit
2. Mistakes are a part of life and so you have to accept them
There is no great person today who does not have the scars of mistakes on them. Like I said earlier, everybody in the world has something they wish they could change if they had the opportunity to go back in time.
The more you are set to achieve your destiny the more you will be confronted with mistakes, because whether you like it or not there comes a time when you will fall. But you are expected to stand up and not remain down.
Moses in the desert must have regretted of ever intruding in the fight against the Jew and the Egyptian, the case that sent him out of the palace in Egypt. Joseph must have regretted of not keeping his mouth shot, concerning his dream that intimidated his brothers.
David must have regretted of not going to battle with his army, that day he fell to the sin of adultery. These are Bible examples of men who made mistakes, but they were able to push pass it and move on.
Sometimes what seems to be a perfect plan becomes a worse mistake
Sometimes you try all your best and things don’t work out, you are careful and decisive yet it still failed. What do you do? You move on, I have seen things like this and believe me it used to make me very better and depressed.
I hear people say; if I had known I would have done this differently, but the truth is that you wouldn’t have known if not that you did it the way you did it.
3. You can’t change the past so focus on making changes in the now
There is absolutely nothing you can do to change the past, so quite regretting or wishing that you could reverse time. The time you spend wishing you could change the past, just invest it in the now.
Because the present is what you have to make all the difference and changes that can shape the future.
To continue to regret of your past mistakes is to hold unto the past. Believe me, if you continue to regret of your past moving forward becomes difficult.
Make good use of the present instead
They say that the past is history, the future is a mystery but the present is a gift. The present is what you have right now to right your wrongs, it’s your opportunity to redeem yourself and make up for all you have lost.
4. No one is perfect and no one is above mistakes
Knowing this has helped me a lot in my little journey of life, I really used to be hard on myself. Would I say I was a perfectionist? I can’t say exactly but what I’m grateful to GOD for is that He has given me the enablement and grace to push passed those limitations, He will do the same for you.
I so much love excellence and I want all I do to be the best, in as much as that is a good thing I have also learnt that things can never go and be exactly the way you plan them to be.
That is why you need to be patient, learn to adapt and find your way around, you need to be flexible so that you can find your way to the top.
5. We can’t completely avoid mistakes in life
Such is life and this has helped me to stop fighting the battles I can’t win, I have learnt to expect the best and prepare for the worse. Because in life unpleasant thing happen and sometimes there is nothing you can do to stop it.
I used to think that being a Christian makes me a super human, although the Spirit of GOD does but not in the way I assumed.
You are not invulnerable but you are a victor, you will be knocked down but you will surely rise again. Being a child of GOD doesn’t mean you are above mistakes, but GOD will never let what is beyond you come upon you 2 Corinthians 10:13.
6. We learn from mistakes and they are important because of the lessons they hold.
Lessons are more important than blessings why? Because without the lessons you can’t keep the blessings, we are beings full of mistakes and if you really want to succeed in life you will definitely make mistakes. From the mistakes you will learn life greatest lessons
Except you want to remain where you are, except you don’t want to try anything new or explore your destiny. You can see that when a child is born and it’s time for it to walk, that child will fall many times while it tries to learn to walk.
It’s going to feel pain, it going to cry but that will not stop the child from learning and eventually walk, that is how it applies to every process in life that is worthwhile.
7. You can start again because it’s not yet over
It is easier said than done and it could be hard to even bear the thought of starting all over again, talk less of going back to square one.
I completely understand this but you do not have a choice but to start again when you fail, fall or miss it, all you have to do is to start again.
This is the point where many people loose hope and many people have taken this hopelessness as far as committing suicide.
You can and should try again
I have started again many times from ground zero, what do you expect? We just have to, because the down fall of a man is not the end of his life.
You shouldn’t give up because of a temporary problem, mistakes are temporary don’t make them a permanent issue. Living in regret is only an attempt to make mistakes permanent.
It may have taken you 20 years in building that dream, that relationship, business, legacy. But the good news is that this time you will achieve faster this time because you now hold within you priceless lessons that can give you an up shoot.
8. Regrets don’t solve the problem so don’t buy into it
If regrets doesn’t solve the problem, if it can’t change the mistake, if it doesn’t change the past then why give into it?
It’s of no use and as a matter of fact it only makes matter worse, it deepens the injury instead. Instead of getting depressed with regrets, focus on making changes in the now, instead of weeping over your loss rise up and start finding a way out.
9. You have better days ahead
Your best days are not behind you because they are ahead, you have so much and a greater tomorrow to live for. You can start making things right, you can redeem your name again and you can regain all you have lost.
Let by gone be by gone, believe me, no matter the wound you will heal it’s only a matter of time. I can tell you this because I have been through the same road
No mistake is worth taking your life, none. Because you will rise again I bet you, so don’t give up yet.
10. Begin to live your life now looking forward not backward
It could be hard to let go but you just have to let go of the past, the mistakes, guilt and regrets then move forward.
I know how much the past is important trust me, that has made me a lover of history. Knowing fully well that the past brings about the present and the past also plays a great role in defining the future.
Although the past is important yet you are not meant to live there, you should only draw lessons from the past to help you shape your future.
I’m I trying to give you credit for mistakes? I’m trying to say that you should not pursue excellence? No, far from it, as a matter of fact I say you shouldn’t settle for less, go for and become the best.
The point I’m making here is that we can’t really avoid mistakes and we do not have to be tired down by regrets, guilt and shame. What you ought to do is learn from it and move forward, give in to prayers, worship and begin to take responsibilities instead. By so doing you are redirecting your energy towards getting result.
My Prayer For Your
I pray for you today in the name of Jesus Christ our LORD, may His grace, wisdom and strength come upon you. May He give you peace that surpasses all understanding.
- O LORD thank you for the lesson in life and the blessings as well
- O LORD have mercy on me, forgive me of all my sins and give me the strength to keep going forward
- Strengthen me with the power of your might and renew my strength